How to Never be Tongue-Tied on a Date

Don't you hate being tongue-tied? It happens to everybody. You go up and say hi, maybe buy her a drink, and then you just stand there frozen. You stutter, ask what her job is, and basically bore her to death until she awkwardly excuses herself. The good news is you're about to find out three things you can do to always have something on the tip of your tongue to say to a woman.

1) Go into the "Now"

Most of the time, when you're stuck and lost for words, your mind isn't too empty. Usually it's too full. You might be ruminating about the past, or worrying about the future, even rambling about how this girl doesn't like you and might leave.

To get in the present moment, it's helpful to take twenty minutes out of each day and meditate. Some important books to check out are "The Power of Now" and "Stillness Speaks" (much shorter book), by Eckhart Tolle. Yoga also is extremely helpful in this area.

2) Learn to Free-Associate

Conversational vibing is all about spontaneously relating to both your environment and to what someone with you has just said. It's always triggered by something that is around. For example, if a woman says she just got promoted, you may think of someone you know that got demoted over something silly. Or, you might think of a boxing "promotion" you saw on TV. Both are legitimate things to talk about.

To get better at free-associating it, just practice it! On your way to a social event, look around and come up with associations for things you pass by. If you see a white car, you can think "driving fast, long traffic lights, speeding ticket, white cars getting dirty fast." Maybe you'll see a McDonald's and think "fast food, Super Size Me, obesity, french fries, good food when you're drunk," and so on.

3) Keep up to date with things you find interesting.

Anytime you have passion about a topic, you can talk about it nearly endlessly. I once discovered a site that counts calories for you based on what restaurant you ate at, and I could talk about it for hours to anyone who would listen. You need to find out about things which drive your interest and make you want to share. Leave out any majorly controversial or uncomfortable topics, such as religion, politics, or violent crime.

Understand that for most topics, if it's interesting to you, it's interesting to her. I can geek out and talk about Guitar Hero for X-Box and the woman will be giggly enraptured. Any interesting health or science discoveries are fair game too. A good source of these is the non-political stories in the news magazine "The Week."

Now, all of these strategies require you to practice ahead of time, before you see the woman you want. So start implementing these things into your daily life. Be in the "now," practice free-association, and read about what excites you. When you've mastered this, you will have no problem bubbling with fascinating things to say. Your success is coming.

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