Getting Your Ex Back - 10 Common Break Blunders To Avoid

If you are still not over your break up and would really like to have a chance at winning your ex-lover back, you have to make sure you are not committing the types of breakup blunders that actually will make it harder to win your ex back.

Are you committing any of these ten breakup blunders?

1. Telling your ex what a huge mistake they are making. This won't cause them to pause and think it over, instead they will think of what a mistake it was to get involved with you in the first place.

2. Calling too soon after the break up. Your ex has broken up with you and it should be clear enough that they want some space right now and the last thing they need is to hear from you.

3. Drunk Dialing. You have imbibed a bit too much and are really letting your emotions run amuck so you keep picking up the phone to try and get your ex to talk to you. See # 2

5. Leaving a lot of voice mail and email messages.... Again - see #2

5. Telling your ex and everyone else who will listen how badly you have been doing since the break up. You may be hoping to appeal to your ex's sympathetic nature but you are saddling them with your emotions and overwhelming them with your neediness instead. And however unintentional this kind of behavior is manipulative and is a real relationship killer.

6. Continuing to argue about the break up and bring up past disagreements and squabbles. Perhaps you manage to get your ex's attention and get them talking to you. Do you think this is the best use of your time? You really are being fairly immature and petty and this isn't going to get you what you want. It will only keep you stuck in the past instead.

7. Professing your undying love over and over. Even if you think that your ex doesn't understand how much your really love them, that's obviously not the issue at the moment or they wouldn't have wanted to leave. It's time to take a different approach and start analyzing what went wrong with the relationship and what you need to change instead of believing that true love conquers all.

8. Apologizing over and over again. Now if you did something wrong, really blew it by cheating or breaking a big promise you know you need to apologize. But if you don't know the right way to make an apology, (and hardly anyone does) you won't be able to repair the rift in the relationship. You also have to know when to apologize instead of apologizing too soon. And if you really didn't do anything that needs to be apologized for then you are only demeaning yourself and this will make you even less attractive to your ex.

9. Trying to make your ex jealous. Now this may work initially because of the way humans are wired to seem to want what they can't have, and may even be a small part of a smart strategy to get your ex back. But it still won't help you in the long run if you are only depending on manipulative tactics to win your ex back. The underlying problems that caused the break up in the first place will still be there and if those aren't addressed you'll only be heading for another break up.

10. Pleading with them to take you back. I'll let you in on a little secret here: people like people who like themselves, who are emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so desperately that they will sacrifice their self respect by begging.

Now that you know what blunders to avoid when trying to win back your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife it's time to get a perspective on where the relationship went wrong and what needs to change and then you can begin planning a SMARTER strategy for getting your ex back.

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